Welcome, my friend. Congratulations on finding this article.
What the hell, man! I’m so anxious already, let’s get it over with. There’s no hope for me, I have X, Y, and Z which prevent my success…
Alright, let’s dive into it. Knowing oneself is half the battle.
1. Limiting Beliefs
I’m bald, I can’t get girls…
Andrew Tate is bald. Neil Strauss is bald. Nick Krauser is bald. RSD Tyler is bald.
I’m short, I can’t get girls…
Neil Strauss is short. Many guys in the red pill subreddit are short, and they’re killing it. Heck, even I’m short.
I’m genetically meant to be fat, I can’t lose weight…
Ethan Suplee lost his weight and he’s in great shape for his age.
I’m skinny, I can’t build muscle…
David Laid was scrawny and achieved a great physique before he even started microdosing steroids.
I’m dumb and bad at maths, I can’t make money…
Have you seen the way most professional athletes talk? They’re dumb as hell, yet that doesn’t prevent them from being popular, making money, or getting girls.
You don’t get it! They’re superstars, while I’m just a poor white teenager living at my mom’s
I get it, more than you ever know. You don’t need a billion dollars to be rich, and you don’t need to be Cristiano Ronaldo to make some money.
I get bored fast, I can’t keep up with my boring studies…
Then don’t, lean onto your edge. Naval Ravikant gets bored easily, and so do most intelligent content creators. You’re meant to be an innovator, not a work slave.
I’m not a creative person so I can’t be an entrepreneur, just give me an idea and a procedure and I’ll grind it out.
Great, you should lean onto your edge too! Find a creative person, and bring your conscientiousness to the table. Always play your cards the best way you can.
It’s possible. I guarantee you that someone with your same specs made it at some point in history.
My problem is a bit different, I got assaulted/raped/kidnapped when I was younger and since then I can’t function normally.
It happened, there’s no changing the past. However, you can change how you react to it.
Don’t be ruled by your limiting beliefs. Don’t define yourself by them, you’re you, and you are more than your limiting beliefs.
2. Resistance
Your psyche is trying to keep your safe.
It manifests as resistance.
Any venture that has a chance of failing, and said failure could damage your perception of yourself, will give birth to resistance.
Could be a book.
Could be an art piece.
Could be a woodworking project.
Could be starting a new hobby.
Could be changing your job into a better one.
Could be quitting your job to start a business.
Could be leaving your abusive spouse.
Whenever you find yourself overly rationalizing an escape plan from doing a certain task, that’s Resistance talking.
The great thing with Resistance is we can perceive it in a helpful way.
It acts like a compass, telling us which ventures will likely elevate us and which ones will surely bring us down.
If you have an idea, and don’t encounter the least bit of Resistance, then beware of it.
Gambling your paycheck on BlackJack? You know it’s bad, but there’s no resistance. If you wanted to, you’d do it.
Cheat on your wife with the sexy coworker who keeps inviting you to fix her sofa problem at home? You know it’s bad, but there’s no resistance either.
Resistance is your compass for self-elevation. Embrace it, never hate it.
The more you push it away, the stronger its grip will become.
3. Haters
Whenever you make progress, people around you will feel bad.
They’ll wonder, why could he overcome his demons when we couldn’t?
And so, they’ll test your resolve.
They can’t rest until either you prove yourself worthy of their worship as someone who could do the impossible, or prove that you’re a fraud who faked his improvement.
Trying to prove haters wrong is a fool’s errand.
Don’t engage in such useless arguements. Instead, identify haters, and cut them off from your life, even if they were close family, friends, or even your spouse.
You deserve more than that.
4. Bad Parenting
Intergenerational Trauma.
Low self-esteem.
Depression.
Anxiety.
Pessimism.
These are all inheritable, and you can’t refuse them if they’re force upon you.
Maybe your parents don’t know better, maybe theirs didn’t either. At the end of the day, it’s a long cycle of abuse.
Unless parents go through therapy and willingly try to make a change, they’ll likely pass on some if not most of their trauma to their children.
But what can be done? Nothing. At least not before you reach adulthood.
Your best bet is to work on yourself.
Meditation.
Self-talk.
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.
Gratitude.
Journalling.
After a while, you’ll be free from the chains of negativity.
You can also give therapy a shot, but beware! Therapists can be dangerous people, and you might get manipulated into changing core things about yourself just because the therapist doesn’t like them if you’re not careful.
5. Environment
Another chain that binds many young men and women.
You may be living in a small town. Everyone makes around 2k EUR a month. All is well, and everyone’s living a similar lifestyle.
But that’s not how you see your life. You refuse to accept it.
You try to start a business, and it goes well at first. Your fellow townsmen cheer for you, they even help you with connections to get merchandise, transportation, and marketing.
However, once they learn that you made 15k EUR on your second month, something changed.
At the surface level, everyone was still gentle and easygoing. However, behind the curtains, something’s brewing.
Rumors are spread about your business. Shipments are delayed. Logistical problems everywhere.
And the worst part? You can’t even solve it, because you don’t know the root cause.
In fact, the townsfolk are innocent in this case. Individually, that is.
The difference between haters and regular folk in an ordinary town is that haters are blunt, in your face. Their negative energy is directed at you, not implicitly elsewhere.
Your neighbors want to see you succeed, in a way they’re used to. A villager makes a harmless joke about your candy being too sour, and the joke is retold countless times, until it’s distorted, completely stripped out of its core.
“Oh, he’s using worse quality ingredients now that he has faithful clients.”
It’s not the work of any single person. It’s the town’s fault.
You must never change too much at once, and if you must, move to a place where the change you want to achieve is already welcome.
If you try to become extraordinary, then escape the ordinary place you live in.
This is one of the greatest services you can do for yourself.
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